A child’s poor schoolwork may be a cry for help in family relationships. If the family’s request for help is ignored, the school may be left with a refractory educational problem and an angry child who may continue to fail until someone finally gets the message. In most instances, when children fail in school, some form of family therapy is warranted.
The goal of family therapy is to change structures and processes in the family or in its environment so as to relieve existing strains. Family diagnosis based on living systems theory makes it possible to determine whether pathology lies in a family as a whole, in one or more individual members, or in a suprasystein, such as an economically disadvantaged neighborhood or a school with limited resources.
The range of interventions available to families is considerable. The health, mental health, social service, pastoral care, and educational systems all deal with family problems. The field of marriage counseling has specifically focused on one aspect of the family, and family service agencies handle all aspects of the family. For faltering families the marital relationship is the most
What is family therapy?
Family therapy is a form of psychotherapy that aims at solving family issues through family counseling. In a family therapy treatment multiple or all family members are involved as this technique considers family as one unit. The emphasis is on the members who are directly related to the problem. Issues like marriage, divorce, children-parent relationships, family conflicts, depression, addictions and similar family issues are generally handled by family therapists. The focus of family therapy is on family relationships and family interaction. Instead of pin pointing the cause family therapists work on solving the issue by emphasizing on the strengths of the family unit.
What does a family therapist do?
Family therapy sessions have helped hundreds of families live together happily and peacefully. A family therapist informs the family members about the family as a unit and the importance of each member performing his/her roles effectively. A family therapist helps the family members to resolve conflicts through effective communication minimizing the gaps. Family members are made to realize the significance of family as a unit. Their behaviors are analyzed and if
When do you start to change the family dynamics?
Is it you or the children to change?
Within each family there are different situation that is played out each day
and it is sometimes difficult for the families to understand or heal their differences.
Some of these family dynamic are the parents are not satisfy with their children’s behaviour and are constantly blaming their children for not acting, listening or not doing what are ask of them.
Many parents give to their children material things because the parents do not want their children to feel deprive, not good enough or miss out on what they did not get when they were small.
Some parents over give to their children and are later upset that their children is not doing things around the home such as cleaning their room or helping around the home when some thing need attending to because the parents feel that the children should know better.
Many parents feel that their children should be grateful and show it by cleaning up their room or helping around the home and sometimes
Leo Tolstoy wrote one of the most memorable opening sentences of any novel in Anna Karenina: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” If we alter the word “happy” to “healthy,” we will have a pretty good description of the psychology of families. If all healthy families are alike, it may be useful to get an idea of what healthy looks like. Let’s concentrate on the ABC’s of families, where the letters in this case stand for Attachment, Boundaries and Communication. As a subheading we’ll talk about the three R’s, in this case, Rules, Roles, and Resulting Relationships. (I am using the word “role” not to signify a part in a drama from in its second dictionary definition, “the characteristic and expected social behavior of an individual.” The last two R’s refers to what happens when the children in each situation grow up to become adults.)
The ABC’s of a healthy family consist of secure attachment, good boundaries, and open communication. Let’s see what that looks like in detail in terms of our three R’s. The rules for producing secure attachment in a child shouldn’t come as any surprise: react
Menopause is not only a physical factor, but also a thing of the mind. Cessation of menses sends some signals and concern to most women, particularly those that are not or properly informed about the subjecting energy. We are not just bodies, we are spirits as well. Just as what goes on in our minds can affect our bodies, so also can what goes on inside our bodies affect our minds. This is especially true of women.
Here are various ways menopause can affect women’s health psychologically:
Psychological effects of menopause 1: Change in Temperament
For many women, menopause is accompanied by a sudden change in temperament. They become irritable and hot-tempered. They feel that their husbands no longer have interest in them like before. They feel that they are no longer as attractive as before. It is very important for men to understand their wives as they pass through this stage. Often, men do not understand what their wives are going through. This creates a lot of tension and division in the families.
Psychological effects of menopause 2: Feeling of Depression, Anxiety and Nervousness
Menopausal women often experience depression, anxiety and nervousness. This could
Recently, I found myself sitting with a patient Elsa, who was crying inconsolably in my office. It turns out that her sister had stolen her inheritance out from under her. It wasn’t the loss of the money that was devastating her, however; it was the shocking betrayal by her only sibling.
Elsa’s sister Joyce had gotten their dying mother to change her will at the last minute, leaving everything to her. Their mother had been ill for a long time and Joyce had found a way to convince their mother that she and not Elsa really needed and deserved the substantial inheritance.
During our session, Elsa kept repeating, over and over, “I don’t understand how she could have done this. I don’t understand why!” Although they had never been close and in fact, had only seen each-other at family gatherings for the past several years, Elsa didn’t think that there was any animosity between them; certainly not enough to cause Joyce to do such an awful thing.
Despite the fact that Elsa was utterly confused by her sister’s behavior, I understood it all too well, as it was representative of a pattern of sibling behavior
First, we have to understand what psychology is since there are lots of definitions regarding the word psychology. Let’s get the simplest meaning on it. Psychology is the science that studies the behavior of human being and living things involving systemic and mental functions.
There are many types of psychology including:
- Child psychology: This study involve children and their mental functions and behavior.
- Family psychology: This study concentrate more on family behavior, developmental lives, sexual dysfunctions and more on counseling.
- Environmental psychology: This deals with interaction between environments and people.
- Physiological psychology: This deals with the physical and genetic disorders, with the use of drugs.
- Health psychology: This deals with human behavior with psychological implication of action towards health such as smoking, stress, alcoholism.
- Educational psychology: This deals with how people learn. In schools, they are sometimes called the guidance counselor. They deal with students.
Getting an online psychology degree is a good source for people who wish to be psychologists in the future. For most people, what they know is that, psychologists are only of one type. You can choose what type of psychology you want to learn.
You can do research regarding online psychology degrees on the
I am openly dismayed and disillusioned by the behavior of many of our Congressional officials. Our politicians are exhibiting almost every serious problematic behavior I’ve dealt with as a Marriage Counselor and Family Psychotherapist for over 35 years. In the scramble for political advantage, keeping score has become more important than the welfare of our country.
I think it’s time they started dealing with our national problems as mature adults and true professionals. The behaviors we are seeing match the seven classical hallmarks found in dysfunctional families everywhere:
- Shame and Blame; 2. Scapegoating; 3. Contempt; 4. Defensiveness; 5. Gridlock; 6. Stonewalling; 7. Show Downs.
Finger pointing has become more important than solving the real problems. There is no respect being given and no meaningful exchange of ideas. Our politicians resist flexibility and are unwilling to try and reach synergistic solutions together. Energy is devoted primarily to staying in “Attack Mode”.
Have we not yet learned better strategies for conducting our political life? What is it going to take?
I believe that political leaders can solve the nation’s problems if they take a deep breath and agree to use the same techniques used by
On the need to study family structures and family interactions in the Psychology of Family
The psychology of family examines how and why we have families and close relationships as also the dynamics of family interactions. The structure of families is based on evolutionary biology, anthropology, history and sociology and the roots of family systems are found within these disciplines. However studying family structure will show us how family systems have evolved over time but may not directly tell us why family relationships develop in the first place. Family relationships are in turn studied with psychology, child development and philosophy and suggest why family forms the basis of our existence. The interdisciplinary approach to the study of family will have psychology at its core as human evolutionary biology, sociology, philosophy have significant psychological components.
To begin an answer to the questions on how family structures have developed, early evolutionary history and anthropology will suggest that family, albeit in a different form is the basis of human civilization. The earliest men who lived in caves and forests, quickly formed groups or tribes to protect themselves from wild animals. Research into anthropological remains has shown the life of
How do you keep a family business together for multiple generations? There is no magic formula to guarantee that this can happen, but you can increase the likelihood that future members of your family will want to join your business by building a solid foundation based on seven characteristics:
Trust is a key to any successful relationship be it a business, family, or friendship. You must trust that those you work with will do the jobs they are assigned and that their focus is on the success of the organization. Those who see that you place your complete trust in will in turn develop feelings of trust for you and act accordingly.
In every relationship there must be mutual respect between the parties involved. When one party feels that they are better, or more important than others, they are taking focus away from the partnerships that can build mutually satisfying relationships. Families are about recognizing each other’s strengths and building upon those of each other; it also involves recognizing each other’s weaknesses and helping to overcome them or build them into strengths. This cannot be done when airs of superiority are
The family as a social unit has undoubtedly been on the decline in the past few decades. The increasing number of single parent households, increased divorce rates, and the growing gap between generations has led the family to move to the periphery of an individual’s social life, rather than its center. Truth is, today, you will have to actually work together and work quite hard to build strong, healthy family relationships.
Like any other relationship, families are built on trust. Children, teenagers and adolescents will often hide things from their parents for fear of punishment. This behavior, if encouraged, will eventually lead to their estrangement and lack of trust. It is the responsibility of the parents, therefore, to create an air of openness in the family. Kids in the family should never feel scared of sharing things with parents. As a parent, you will have to punish kids for straying out of line, but take care to not do so in a fashion that would make your kids not trust you with their secrets again.
Trust is directly tied to sharing – the crucial part of family relationships that just seems to be missing these days.
As I have discussed, life can be like a puzzle, with the four corner pieces in place, the rest is easier to put together. This is a deeper look into the fourth corner, your relationship health. The first corner being your physical health, second is mental health and third is spiritual health.
We are designed to build relationships. Family can be used as an example of a relationship. Although, family is a relative term, it can be used to describe numerous kinds of relationships in your life.
There could be people you care about, and who you are in relationship with, that are not blood relatives. However, because of time spent together building and growing, you are a “family” of sorts. You may also have blood-relatives who have not spent time in your life and although you are related, they may not feel like family.
Family comes from a close nurturing relationship. There is a family you come from, and families you build. Many are lucky enough to have other groups that are considered “family” to nurture them. These kinds of non-traditional relationships are very valuable, but often overlooked.
Research has shown that people
When I first married, I didn’t realize there was a 50 percent chance that my marriage would end in divorce. During our marriage, we had a child and again, I didn’t realize that there was a one in six chance my divorce would turn out to be “high conflict,” and that my child would be used by an angry and vindictive ex to avenge the failure of our marriage. Over the years since my divorce, the mother’s behavior has only intensified. Eventually, I came to learn the meaning of terms such as Parental Alienation (PA), Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS), and Hostile Aggressive Parenting (HAP), and experienced how easily the family court system can be manipulated by false allegations.
In 1985, Dr. Richard Garner, a forensic psychiatrist, introduced the concept of PAS in an article, “Recent Trends in Divorce and Custody Litigation,” in which he defined PAS as “a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child-custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of programming (brainwashing) by the other parent and the child’s own contributions to the vilification of
Ever since life came on earth it started with coming together in company of each other. When God created Adam he also created Eve for companionship and thus a relationship started and a family was created. It is not only humans who have relationships and family but animals too are seen to have a family. Have you ever noticed male and female animals looking after their little ones and collecting food for them? A family bond started with the very begging of life on earth. A family is very crucial for a human being. A strong family bond is what we all humans want.
To have and maintain strong family ties the seniors in the family have to make extra efforts. It is very important to know what one wants in life and what the family as a whole expects from the different members. As the couple come together to start a family they should try to figure out what they want out of their family life. They should share their goals and dreams.
The problem starts from not giving time to each other due to various reasons. Couples often do not get enough time to
Couples counseling is designed to understand the behavior patters between people in a relationship to resolve problems more effectively. Couples therapy is a brief, solution-focused technique, which defines specific and attainable treatment goals, and is designed with the outcome in mind. Couples counseling will help people develop strategies for improving their relationships.
The processes of couples counseling teaches you how to take helpful risks to develop a loving relationship. Opportunities to continue personal growth occur throughout life. Individual growth leads to stable committed relationships. Couples therapy encourages emotional growth, which allows people to experience more connected feelings with one another. People develop trust when they feel safe in disclosing your deepest, most private self to their partners. The most effective way to obtain a good outcome in your relationships is to work with an experienced professional, such as a licensed marriage and family counselor.
What types of problems are treated in couples counseling?
The psychotherapy of couples counseling treats specific problems in a relationship such as poor communication, problems getting along, boundary issues with other family members such as parents or grandparents, disagreements about parenting of children, or difficulties with financial stress. Couples therapy
Barbara Streisand sang, “People, people who need people, are the luckiest people in the world.” If it is true that people need people, then one should wonder:
— Why stress over maintaining relationships?
— Why the excuse that you are too busy to call or visit loved ones?
— Why the feeling of being overburdened with relationships?
— Why is your social calendar filled with one activity right after the other? Are you trying to please everyone?
— Are you constantly on the go and then complain about being too tired to finish projects or handle the paperwork?
— Could it be that you are overdosing on activities, people and things?
As valuable and important as these relational activities are, too much is stressful. An overflowing schedule of activities may appear on the surface to be abundant living, but most often, it is a means of running away from home-front problems. Be honest. Is one of these problems disorganization?
The secret of living abundantly is accepting and balancing the gift of relationships. Take some time to review the balance in your life. Do you maintain a healthy perspective on work,
You love it when family members visit. If visits are regular it becomes the norm to not expect any gifts. However, when visits occur during the holidays like Independence Day or Christmas or during special occasions like a birthday or graduation material things become expected. This could be a result of family tradition or societal expectations. Family members expect toys, games, clothes and shoes, and sometimes money too. However, if the central focus of the visits is on material things members are not building strong interpersonal relationships. Families develop negative habits by comparing gifts received to those from past years or from other family members. This also involves forming an entitlement attitude where gifts become an obligation instead of being a privilege. However, by switching the focus to recreation, hobbies and events members will value you as a person and respect your time and attention. You will also notice an increase in confidence and self-esteem levels of everyone.
Test Your Own Family
To test if your family welcomes you based on your gift then at your next family visit do not carry the gifts with you. Instead you could have them brought over by a friend
When I decided to pursue my goal of becoming a full-time published author I knew that I would need the financial, emotional and spiritual support of my fiancé and children. During this time I had given up a successful and profitable Insurance business that I formed in the Fall of 2008. Doing so took all there was within me to muster the courage to walk away from what was comfortable for us all, in order to have a lifestyle that would supersede any of our expectations. Although all the odds seemed against me, and everything in my life (personally and professionally) suggested that the timing wasn’t right… everything in my soul screamed that the timing could not be better. After much debate within myself, I decided to draft a plan that would be achievable for me and my family. Having formed two successful businesses in the past I knew that I would have to draft a plan that would make sense personally and professionally.
The plan would include 3 parts: 1) How would I support myself and any expenses associated with pursuing my dream? 2) How will I divide my time between pursuing my dream and spending
One of the most difficult matters to confront when it comes to family relationships is that you don’t have complete control over it. You cannot control another member of your family. You can’t change them and you can’t fix them and you can’t make them be like you. It takes at least two to tango.
Sometimes you can get another member of your family to change but I wouldn’t count on it. Another option is to accept them just the way they are. This can cause resentment, if your needs are not being met by this person or especially if this person steps over your boundaries.
A third option exists and that is to change yourself in a way that solves the problem. In this case, you need to redefine the problem as an internal one instead of an external one. Your solution will then take the form of an expansion of your awareness as you change your beliefs.
When someone upsets you or causes you frustration, they are reflecting back to you a part of yourself that you dislike. I always say that when someone annoys you, you are looking in the mirror. The
It can be incredibly hard when visiting your family, as you might not have a great relationship with them. Your significant other might not get along with them either, and this is a problem that is known worldwide. How do you handle the thanksgiving dinners? Do you even have to deal with it? It really depends on how family oriented you happen to be, and whether you value your happiness or the happiness of others.
Most parents even though they said that everything that they do is for you simple lie. If you observe closely most of the things that they do, their actions, are geared toward making their own lives more enjoyable. This might be normal in a way but it is something that all children should understand, as it will make those trips more enjoyable. If your parents really do sacrifice themselves, and your visits are already excellent then that is awesome, but this is an exception to the rule and not the norm.
There are also siblings that you might have a problem sitting next too. Families are there, but it does not mean that the individuals within them have to be friends.